Thursday, January 29, 2009

Wedding vows

The vows I spoke five years ago.
I feel them to be more relevant each day.

I, Olga, take you, Sohail, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow and forever.
I will trust you, honour you and and respect you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will seek always to see the light within you.
And seek always to share the light within me.

I will love you faithfully,
through the best and the worst,
through the difficult and the easy.
Forsaking all others,
I will stand by you only.

As I give you this rose,
so I give you my life to keep,
and my heart to treasure.

This is my solemn vow.

On marriage

You were born together
and together you shall be forever more.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

-Khalil Gibran

The greatest gift

On our five year wedding anniversary, I am reflecting on how far we have come.

I am realising that the greatest gift you can give your children is a strong and successful marriage.

This image from the movie "The Notebook" makes me think of such a union. Their romance also reminds me so much of ours.

My vow today is be present in the marriage. To make the marriage a priority. To work on it every day.

I love you my sweetie.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009


"Beauty is that which attracts your soul, and that which loves to give and not to receive"

- Kahlil Gibran

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

My garden

I realised today that I don't spend time in the garden any more.

In South Africa, I would sit on my bench in my lovely garden every evening.
This was the most relaxing part of my day.
I planted the garden from scratch.
It was designed by me with so much love.
I would get so excited when there was a new flower.
Or when my Silver Birches started shooting up.

This photo is of my Silver Birches and bench.

I don't have a photo of my Leopard Tree.
My favourite tree in the world.
I wonder how big it is now.
It was planted in the middle of the garden to give shade in Summer, but not in Winter.

I think the reason I don't spend time in the garden over here is many - fold.

I am too busy with the inside of the house.
I have beautiful nature all around me, so I don't need to go into my tiny garden to get it.
I am not as stressed as I used to be, so don't need that recharge.
I didn't build this garden from scratch, so don't feel very attached to it.

All good reasons to have left my beautiful garden behind.
But, I wonder how my trees are doing.
And I miss my evenings on the bench.

Friday, January 16, 2009

Finding her here

A few years ago, I found this in a magazine and was so inspired that I wrote it out, printed it and put it up by my desk at work.
I recently came across it and am amazed at how far I have come.

Finding Her Here

I am becoming the woman I've wanted
grey at the temples,
soft body, delighted,
cracked up by life with a laugh that's known bitter,
knows she's a survivor -
that whatever comes,
she can outlast it.
I am becoming a deep weathered basket.

I am becoming the woman I've longed for,
the motherly lover with arms strong and tender,
the growing up daughter who blushes surprises,
I am becoming full moons and sunrises.

I find her becoming this woman I've wanted,
who knows she'll encompass,
who knows she's sufficient,
who knows where she's going and travels with passion.
Who remembers she's precious,
yet not at all scarce -
who knows she is plenty,
plenty to share.

- Jane Relaford Brown

Thursday, January 15, 2009

This made me cry

My sister in law went back to work today.
She gave birth to her second son on the 25th of August last year.
Today was her day to re enter the workplace.

She just sent me this amazing message on my phone.
It had me in tears, I wasn't even able to read it out loud to Sohail because I was so choked up.

I left a smiling happy baby this am
a son who said good luck mum
and put lunch in the car
a supportive hubby who said all the best
and a wonderful helper who came in at 6

arrived to an office who bought me roses
and bought lots of cake
and kept telling me how good I look
I have been asked if I'm keen to be a junior recruitment specialist

I thank God everyday for all the blessings in my life

Vallie, I hope you don't mind that I put this up.
It is so hard to leave your child for the first time.
I am so glad that it has gone so well for you.

You deserve all the happiness in the world!

Friday, January 9, 2009

Happy birthday

It's my baby brother's 21st birthday toady.
I wanted to do something special for him, so I decided to make a happy birthday video.
It's no Spielberg and won't win any awards, but was made with lots of love.
I am actually quite proud of my work, because I have never used any movie making software before.
I scanned photos into my computer.
I pinched photos from Mihow's Facebook profile.
And I managed to put a song in too!

Happy birthday Mihow.
I miss you and wish we were together to celebrate your 21st.
As Annie would say, even though you are not here, you are always in my heart.

Friday, January 2, 2009

New year project

Annie's flower lights. Inspired by Freida's fairy lights.

Annie and I have decided that we are going to create a fairy haven in her room.

Will keep posting the progress and any inspiration.

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