Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas and a new blog!

I hope that your Christmas was as wonderful as ours. It has been a truly magical time for our family and a time of new beginnings.

I stumbled my way into this blog 4 years ago. I did a lot of growing up here and if you have been following me for a while, you will have seen how I have changed in this time.

I feel much more confident in my voice and in expressing myself. I was inspired to create a new blog during this Christmas period. I know that when inspiration strikes, I must act IMMEDIATELY!

So, I did!

Please come and join me at my new blog. I hope that it will give you even more peace and inspiration.

It has been wonderful here, so I leave this space to carry on creating more peace, abundance and joy.

Blessings to you.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

A Christmas blessing

Well, the time is almost here. We have almost completed Mary's walk. She has one more star to step on before it is Christmas.

Our first Christmas in our new house. It has been a massive year for me. Two career moves and a house move. I am so proud of what I have achieved this year.

I want to thank each and every person who has visited me here. I hope that you have found some peace and inspiration here. I love the sense of community on the blogosphere.

Did you know that when we moved to Australia, I didn't know anyone and I felt really isolated and lonely? So I started blogging as a way of finding myself and making connections. I have to say that the friendships I have made with people I have never physically met have been incredible. I have started finding my voice and I am much more clear on what I wish to achieve in my life.

I feel so much gratitude for my life. It is as perfect as I had hoped it would be when we decided to move across the world and it is only getting better.

I wish you and your loved ones a peaceful and blessed Christmas. May you stop, reflect and honour the light within you. It is a Polish custom that we hold no grudges with anyone at Christmas time. If anyone is causing you pain right now, just let it go, even if it is just at Christmas time. Feel the peace rise up within you.

And when it all gets a bit too crazy, don't forget to spend 10 minutes with your legs against the wall. You will thank me, I promise.

Blessings to you.

Sunday, December 16, 2012

What does it mean to me a peaceful mother?

What would it take to be a peaceful mother? Or father?

It has taken my life journey to realise that the only way to really be a peaceful mother is to put myself first. Our children learn from what we do, not what we say.

So, what are we teaching our children if we put them first? Instead of ourselves? What a question to ask, of course, as mothers we have to put our children first. That is our role as mothers, isn't it? Aren't we supposed to feed them, clothe them, cuddle them, educate them, make sure that they have all the opportunities we didn't have? Isn't that what a GOOD mother does? She puts her needs last and everyone else's first? Is is not our role as women and mothers to serve?

That is how we are built, biologically. We carry the children in our womb. We feed them from our breast. We take care of our nest. We serve.

And it is very satisfying, is it not?

Just imagine how different it would all be if you actually put yourself first, before anyone else?

Would you take better care of your body during your pregnancy? Would you slow down your work. And stop trying to please everyone else? Would the baby in your womb be nourished better? Would there be fewer stress hormones being carried to your baby? If you spent the time connecting with yourself in your pregnancy, would your baby feel your joy and peace?

When the child was born, would you put yourself first by resting as much as possible? Would you let the washing pile up? Would you accept the mess all around you. Would you let others prepare all the meals at home for the first year? Would your baby be happier? Would your baby have a better chance at feeling peaceful?

A peaceful mother puts herself first. She sees the big picture. She doesn't sweat the small stuff. She understands that our lives have cycles. That there are times for action. That there are times for rest. She acknowledges her own female cycle. She acknowledges that she cannot work on auto pilot because she is just not built like that. She teaches her family that she is important. That she is not there to serve.

She is there to empower.

She knows that those precious children will grow up. That she has done her job when they can take care of themselves. Because they do not belong to her. They belong to themselves. They have their own inner being. Their inner being is wise. Their inner being knows what is best for them.

Just as she has her own inner being. And she trusts her own inner being. And the way her children learn to trust their own inner being is by witnessing their own mother trusting herself. And by their mother having confidence in then. And trusting them.

These precious children of ours are not helpless little people that we have to teach and mould. They are more powerful than we can ever imagine. They have chosen us as their mothers and fathers. They have come here to teach us more than what we can teach them.

Yes, we need to teach them how to drive and how to how to use cutlery. But, they have so much more to teach us. And when we stop and pay attention to what they have to teach us, our lives become richer than we could ever imagine. When we give them the respect that is theirs and treat them like the equals that they are, we learn more about parenting than we would ever do if we spent out time worrying about them stepping on a bee by running barefoot on the grass.

To be a peaceful mother is to just let go. Chill out. Relax. Have fun. Play.

It is to stop trying to control our children and to just let them be. It is to let them make mistakes. It is to let them trip and fall. It is to tell them that we trust that THEY know what is best for them.

And mean it.

Just leave your children alone for a bit. And see the peace within you arise.

Blessings to you.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Peas, beans and summer

The school holidays have arrived.

Summer is here.

It is time to rest and reflect on the past year.

I had a spark of insight while I was having my afternoon nap.

I have so much to share with you.

Stay tuned, but for now, enjoy the hydrangeas.

Blessings to you.
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